Trusting the Calm
There was a time when quiet made me uneasy. I’d wake up on a calm morning and still feel that flicker of tension—like my body didn’t believe it could be safe when nothing was wrong. Chaos had been my normal for so long that stillness felt suspicious.
Even after years of healing, that reflex still whispers sometimes: If it’s calm, something must be coming. But I’m learning that calm isn’t danger in disguise; it’s what safety actually sounds like.
When chaos used to be normal, peace can feel strange.
This week’s tool is about noticing that reflex—learning not to stir things up just to feel safe, and letting calm be what it is: evidence that healing worked.
These days, when life feels still, I try to notice what happens inside me. Do I tense up? Start looking for what’s next? That moment of noticing has become its own kind of practice—catching the old reflex before it takes over. Sometimes I even jot down what my body does when things finally settle, just to remind myself that I don’t have to fix what isn’t broken.
When peace feels uncomfortable,
I remind myself that safety doesn’t have to be earned. It’s not a reward for effort or proof that I’ve done enough; it’s the natural result of healing. On hard days, I keep a few quiet truths close: It’s okay to rest. Safety doesn’t mean silence. I don’t need chaos to feel alive.
Here’s what I do now.
When that familiar restlessness shows up, I take one small step toward calm instead of away from it. Sometimes it’s pausing before I plan, breathing before I fix, or simply thanking God for the stillness.
Maybe that’s the real work of this week—learning to stay in the quiet without needing to fill it. To trust that peace doesn’t mean the story’s over; it means the work has worked.
Peace no longer feels like waiting for the next thing to go wrong.
It feels like coming home.
Healing doesn’t always roar. Sometimes it just exhales.
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