Asking “why?” became my bargaining tool. I cannot count the times I asked that question.  I asked John in my letters to him. I asked God, but there was never a response.  The result was many days of creating reasons that made sense to me and creating scenarios that would make the outcome different.

Grief is a strange thing. It is dynamic and strikes when I least expect it. I rarely think of upcoming anniversaries, but grief lurks in the shadows ready to surprise me when I see a memory pop up on Facebook or when I hear one of John’s favorite songs. The moments of grief don’t last long and I accept them as part of life. I miss John but would not wish him to come back because I know he is walking with God and enjoying conversations with the saints.